Does he REALLY like me... or is he just playing games, like he does
with ALL his girls? This is what should be running through her head
while you tease and flirt with her. It makes her want to keep playing
the game. Whenever she's with a guy like this, she'll want to look her
best, and act her sexiest, in order to get the confirmation she
craves. The key is to NEVER give her total confirmation. When a woman
is attracted to you, she desperately wants to know if the feeling is
mutual! You can work women into a frenzy this way...by NEVER letting
the girl know that she's "won." For this reason, you must never tell
her how long you've wanted to ask her out, admit how attracted you are
to her, or tell her how you think the two of you would be "great
together." If these sound like winning romantic gestures, turn off
your television, because you've been watching too many Hollywood
movies. Only in the movies can the dork or the shy guy win over the
hottest girl in school in the end because he makes some grand,
romantic declaration.

In reality, it's more likely that she'll regard this as weakness on
your part. (Remember, emotional STRENGTH is one of the big keys to
attraction.) Nine times out of ten, your "confession" isn't going to
prompt her to confess her own attraction to you. It will only take you
down a notch in her eyes. You are no longer an original; you are just
another guy who can't control his emotions or his libido. Play it cool
and act like nothing fazes you. You're a train moving full-steam
ahead. The choice is hers: She can climb onboard and take an exciting
ride, or you can roll without her to the next stop. Either way, you're
an independent guy, doing your own thing. It will become clear whether
she is interested in you on a sexual level.

You won't be shooting in the dark, worrying that she'll freak out if
you try to touch her. When you follow the correct progression of
steps, escalating from conversation to physical touching, you'll never
have to wonder whether she "likes you as a friend" or whether she's
interested in more. You'll know how to read her signals, and your
tactics will be gently leading her down the path to "yes"...instead of
giving her reasons to say "oh, look at the time...I should be getting
home soon."

Evaporate the physical boundaries between you by making body contact
with her. The best times to do so are when you're both laughing. Reach
over and give her a knee a light touch. High-five her and interlace
your fingers with her, then disengage. What you're doing is
acclimating her to your touch, so that it becomes something she is
comfortable with. This way, later in the night when you hold her hand,
kiss her for the first time, or initiate the foreplay that leads to
sex, she's already "warmed up" to your touch. Guys will often fail to
escalate because they don't want to be seen as too aggressive. (It's
just an excuse, really, for not wanting to risk rejection--and they're
not confident that she will agree to the escalation, because they
haven't laid the right groundwork.) If you've laid the groundwork,
made her physically comfortable with you, and built up her attraction
by framing yourself as a hard-to-get "prize," she'll be receptive when
you take things to the next level. But it's on you to lead her there.

Regards,
X.A