There are endless resources out there to help a woman with her
flirting skills. She's fully equipped with information about how to
make you notice her. She's been properly schooled about how she should
lean into the conversation body language, you know. She knows to cross
her legs toward you and absently tug her hair while intently listening
to you talk, all while managing to rest her elbow nearly against yours
the whole time. It's like a game of Twister that she's actually
mastered. But you, you haven't got the first clue where to start.
You're not a game-playing kind of guy. You prefer to just tell a lady
you like her and see where it goes from there. But, if you find
yourself reading this article, it probably hasn't really gone
anywhere, so it's time to brush up on your flirting skills. Here are
five tips to coax out your inner flirt.

5: Act Interested
Depending on the kind of advice you've received in the past, this may
either seem too on the nose or completely counter intuitive. Of course
you need to act interested, you think. How else will she know I like
her? Or, you may have the opinion that girls seem more interested in
guys who ignore them, so will you look like you have no game if you
actually let on that you're interested? Playing coy may work for women
flirting with men, but when the shoe is on the other foot, women need
to know you're interested. Just not too interested. Confused yet?
Let's break it down. If you're attracted to someone, you need to give
her some sort of idea that this is the case. But at the flirting stage
of any relationship, things need to be light and fun. So managing the
intensity of your interest is important. Pay enough attention that she
gets the hint, but don't come on so strong that she gets creeped out.

4: Play Hard to Get
Yes, we realize this seems like a complete contradiction of the advice
we gave you in No. 5, but it's not exactly. It's human nature to
desire what may not be yours, so it's good to pay attention to the
woman of your pursuits, but maybe not too much attention at first.
This means don't fawn all over her, complimenting her every feature
and acting like you can't live without her. This could quickly fall
into stalker territory. If you're in a group, be sure to talk to other
people, especially other women. Just don't flirt with the other women
because this will send mixed signals to the one you like. You don't
want the apple of your eye to give up on you entirely. When you're
talking to her, don't overly approve of
everything she says. You don't want to go overboard and reject her
comments, but it's OK to let her wonder what you're thinking about.
Yes, this all falls under the category of games, which generally isn't
a good idea in relationships. But all is fair in the flirting arena.

3: Get Physical
Remember in elementary school when you chased the pretty girl around
the playground and grabbed her ponytail? She probably wondered why you
were bullying her, having no idea that you were trying to let
her know that you secretly liked her. Fortunately, you've both gotten
a little better at giving and receiving body language cues, so pain is
no longer required to get her attention. But a little touch is still a
great way to let a lady know that you're into her. The big rule in
this is to make sure the touch is appropriate. Anything perceived as
groping will likely land you a slap on the face and an escort out the
door. But finding an excuse to grab her hand is a great way to test
the waters and see if the feelings are reciprocal. Maybe it's
legitimate, like trying to stay with her in a crowd, or maybe you have
to make up a reason, like pretending to read her palm. The good news
is, if she keeps her hand in yours, she probably likes you. But if she
quickly pulls away, you may need to put on the brakes.

2: Make Her Laugh
It's no secret that making a woman laugh is one of the quickest ways
to get her attention. Believe it or not, for many ladies, funny and
charming rank right up there with handsome and athletic. Why do you
think Jack Black or Ramsy Noah gets romantic leads in movies? In
regard to being a funny guy, obviously, we're not talking about
pulling out your full bag of funny jokes. And you may want to avoid
making light of politics or religion until you know where she stands
on those issues. You can always start by lightly make fun of yourself.
Self-deprecation, if done right, lets her know you're confident enough
to laugh at yourself, and that is a turn-on. Lightly making fun of her
in an appreciative way is another flirting technique that will clue
her in that you like her, as long as you keep it on the level. You
don't want to turn it into a roast. You'll definitely want to skip the
butt jokes unless she makes one first. And even then, you're probably
best avoiding any jokes about her body unless she's a swimsuit model.
Remember, light and fun is the name of the game.

1: Be Curious
By nature, communication is important to most women. Why else do you
think they would spend hours on the phone with their girlfriends and
mothers? And in general, women are used to men being less interested
in their ramblings. So, you want to know one of the best flirting
techniques? Ask questions, and then actually listen to the answers.
Demonstrating an ability to listen in a genuinely interested way will
drive you up the ranks and fast. You must try to avoid lending an ear
about anything related to current or past relationship troubles.So
keep those questions away!

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