Frankly, women can be REALLY puzzling.

Case in point, have you EVER thought any of the
following:

** Why won't she return my phone calls?

** Why did she agree to a date, but cancel at the
last minute?

** Why does she flirt, but get annoyed when I make
a move?

** Why does she complain about the guys she dates,
but doesn't want a nice guy?

Sometimes women are just plain ole FRUSTRATING!

They seem to take great pleasure by saying ONE
thing then turning around and doing the EXACT
opposite.

And this is even MORE annoying when we think we're
starting to finally understand them.

.

Here's an example of WHY women can be frustrating
to a lot of guys.

A few months back, my buddy Mike was complaining
about a girl he recently met.

From what he told me, she showed all the OBVIOUS
signs of interest:

* SHE approached him
* SHE flirted
* SHE continued the conversation
* SHE asked for the date

So what happened?

At the last minute this girl called up and
canceled the date.

After that, she wouldn't return Mike's phone calls
OR text messages.

Mike told me this story in the hopes that I had
some advice on the matter.

And all I could do was shrug my shoulders and
say...

"Women...who knows WHAT goes on in their heads!"

I felt bad that I couldn't really give any advice
to Mike.

I KNEW he did everything right.

Since she was showing OBVIOUS signs of interest,
I was a little baffled as to why this girl
flaked out.

Now I'll be the first to say that you never
REALLY know when a woman is going to do something
flaky.

You could be having the BEST time with a woman,
but suddenly a magical 'switch' will go off and
she'll do something completely BIZARRE!

.

So I ask the question- "What goes through the
minds of women when they meet a guy?"

Well from what I've experienced, the MAJOR
difference between the sexes really boils down
to ONE thing:

<<<<OUR VIEWPOINTS OF EVERY SITUATION>>>>

Typically a guy uses LOGIC to make his
decisions.

Example: "A girl is flirting with me. She MUST
be interested!"

On the other hand, women use EMOTIONS to
decipher a situation.

Example: "He's interested, but does he REALLY
like me. Let's do a test to find out..."

And YES, women DO test you. More than you
could possibly imagine.

When I think about Mike's situation in hindsight,
I realized that he didn't recognize a test at some
point during their conversation.

This girl WAS interested when they first met.

But she probably gave a few tests that Mike didn't
pick up...AND he failed!

The truth is almost EVERY woman you meet will do
some type of mind game to judge your reaction.

They simply CAN'T help it.

Many women play mind games because of a specific
EMOTIONAL reaction they're trying to create in
THEMSELVES or in YOU.

For instance if a woman is flirting without
wanting to "hook up," she's probably wants to feel
sexy by having guys hit on her.

OR:

If a woman doesn't return your call, it's probably
because you didn't build up an emotional connection
when your first met.

OR EVEN BETTER:

When a girl cancels your date, she's trying to
create a situation where she's in the power position.

In other words, this girl wants to see how much she
can dominate your actions and turn you into the
pursuer.

.

How can you stop this from happening?

Honestly, that's a hard one to answer.

Some girls simply don't
know what they want. Others ONLY date guys who pass
their tests.

AND a few simply like the feeling of having POWER
over guys.

To prevent this from happening to YOU, it's
important to do the following:

1) Understand what motivates the different women
you meet

2) Identify the moments when they're testing you

3) IMMEDIATELY challenge a girl when she starts
acting like a flake.

You really can't control the actions of women.

But you CAN make them understand that you're the
type of guy who doesn't deal with ANY form of B.S.
in your dating life.

You'll find that DIRECTLY challenging a woman is
one of the best ways to eliminate their flaky
behavior which can save a TON of problems down the
road.

Finally, the FIRST way to prevent a flaky girl is
to hook her interest from the START.

The way to do this is show a DOMINANT
male attitude.

One that'll blast through her general flakiness
and make her WANT to be with you.

KEEP IT REAL

X.A

 
Have you ever gotten so fed up with
dating women and dealing with all the
crap that you just pull out of the game
entirely? You get sick of being blown
off all the time, and really sick of
never being able to reach them in the
first place.

Hey, I've been there.

We all reach a point of disgust and
anger about all the silly social rules
in the dating game and we throw in the
towel.

However, this kind of reaction implies a
few things. First off, that you're
needing a particular result in order to
keep going. Well, that's perfectly
natural. You wouldn't show up at your
job every day if you didn't get the
expected paycheck each week, now would
you?

When it comes to dating women and the
whole pick-up game, you've got to
realize that you may have to walk a
while in the desert before you find the
oasis you're looking for. Hey, if that's
the worst news someone had given me a
Now the good news is that you can
shorten the path to your oasis by being
smart about how you get women interested
in you.

So, in keeping with this, I'm going to
tell you about three attitudes that draw
women to men.

As you read these, I want you to try
something for me. No matter how
'obvious' what I might say seems, I want
you to re-think your beliefs about them,
and see if you are still, perhaps,
working under the opposite belief in
some way.

If that sounds confusing, just wait and
we'll go into it in more detail.

Let's start with things that women find
alluring. These are my top Three
Attitudes that will improve you 100+% in
the eyes of the women you approach and
date if you'll work on them.

In fact, if you really get what I'm
about to tell you, you're going to have
a problem finding time for all the women
that will want to get with you.

I'm not hyping it up here, either, dude.
I'm serious. With my Alpha hobbies,
helping you guys, and the women in my
life, I'm starting to forget to pay
bills and keep enough water in my dog's
bowl. BAD Carlos, I know.
So here are the Three Success Attitudes:

ATTRACTIVE Attitude #1 - Guys who like
themselves

Yes, even though we're men, we still
have PLENTY of things to like about
ourselves. Contrary to the popular media
that demonizes us, guys are pretty cool.
Having a pecker rocks!

I mean, let's start with the obvious
things about guys that are cool: We
invented beer and stock car racing. What
more do we have to do, after all? Yeah,
I'm sure we invented the remote control,
and probably the electric guitar, while
we're at it.
But that's not all. You see, women
really pick up on guys who LIKE being
guys.

And not just guys who like their gender.
Women really like guys who like
THEMSELVES. It comes across in the way
we treat ourselves and the way we treat
others. If you like yourself, you
probably aren't a dick.

It's an easy deduction, because the
ironic thing about confidence and
self-esteem is that the men you THINK
might have it (i.e., Jerks) actually
DON'T have it at all. They're making up
for being horribly insecure dweebs.

Ya dig?

So the more you communicate a
self-liking, the more you're going to
cultivate a more interesting and vibrant
personality. And that "vibrant" turns
into a "vibe" that you'll get with a
woman when she picks up on it.
ATTRACTIVE Attitude #2 - Guys who are
fun to be around.
Not that you have to juggle and tell
great jokes, but you should definitely
have a little personality to show that
gets people interested.

The easiest way to cultivate this trait
is to open yourself up to being more
PLAYFUL.
Being playful means having a slightly
childish part of you that you can bring
out on occasion to have a little fun
with women. Tease them a little. Poke
them in the ribs. Tell her she's got
cooties.

Another great way to be fun is to go
PLACES that are fun. I like meeting
women in interesting spots of San
Francisco so we can be interactive.

There's a great place here called the
Exploratorium where you get to interact
with hundreds of experiments and
scientific demonstrations - from
magnetism to music to glow-in-the-dark
bacteria. It's a hoot. And there's a LOT
of possibility for physical interaction
between you and HER there, too.
Make a list of all the cool places you
can go with her. She'll associate the
feelings she experiences WITH YOU.
Remember that.

ATTRACTIVE Attitude #3 - Guys who are
confident and go after what they want.

This is the one that a lot of guys have
a tough time with.

"What is 'confident'?" they ask.

Confidence is simply your willingness to
be who you are with no regrets, guilt,
or anxiety.

You don't care what other people think.
You're validated from within.

See, I can de fine it for you very
simply, but feeling this sensation and
demonstrating it is something a little
more complicated.

Very few of us really grew up in a way
that allowed us to develop a really good
sense of self-confidence. In most
families, we were subject to constant
put-downs and undermining comments from
our parents and siblings about our
value. We never really got compliments.

As a result, most g uys have struggled to
feel the kind of self-confidence that
allows them to have real success with
women.

And if you ask a woman what the most
attractive thing about a guy is, it's
his level of confidence.

Now, I do have a great solution to help
you with all this.

Especially your confidence.

I want to invite you to come and learn
some of the illogical, yet INCREDIBLY
EFFECTIVE and powerful techniques and
strategies that I've learned, developed,
refined over the last 5 years.

The concepts that I've just discussed
are part of what I consider to be a big
part of the "Inner Game" of dating
success.
If you don't have your "Inner Game"
together, none of the "techniques and
tricks" will work for you. Women can see
right through them.

Once you get the right mind-set, the
world suddenly seems like a different
place to you.

In my Secrets of the Alpha Man program,
I spend several HOURS teaching you Inner
Game techniques ... I'll show you how to
overcome your self-limiting beliefs,
improve your self-confidence and
self-esteem... and get past the fears
that are holding you back from even
TRYING to go out and meet women.
If you're like me, and you've had a lot
of negative programming, then you MUST
get that stuff taken care of. It's not
going to fix itself... YOU have to do
it.
Oh... and it will also teach you TONS of
great "field" methods for approaching
women, talking to women - keeping the
conversation going - getting dates,
meeting women online, and taking things
as far as you want to go - smoothly and
easily... without rejection.

The Alpha Man knows that
self-development is the path to a better
life. It all starts with getting
educated.

Education le ads to understanding.
Understanding leads to better choices.
Better choices lead to better results.

Keep it real
X.A

Hey, what's up!
So, today I'm going to explain a "skill" most guys lack...
...but it's ESSENTIAL in attracting women. It's this little skill called LISTENING.
Okay, okay, even if it was a few years ago, I can still remember the feeling. A girl's in front of you. She's hot. You pretend you're chatting her--but no one's chatting. You're just spewing words, vomiting sounds, speaking simply to hold her attention.
She allows this, for a moment. She is patient with you. You'll never know this, but she wants you to win. She wants you to do the right thing.
But you just keep spewing words, vomiting sounds, speaking because you know you're starting to lose her attention.
She makes a comment. The comment is mundane. It's something hardly worth repeating, probably not worth remembering.
This comment will not find its way into the "field report" you'll write on Monday; yet that comment is the skeleton key into her mind, her heart, her body.
If you listen, she'll tell you exactly what you're doing wrong, exactly how to fix it, exactly how to win. But I know why you won't listen--why you can't listen. I can still remember the feeling...
As much as hot women seem to have a gravitational field--an aura--that surrounds them, you have to listen. Most guys only "hear" the women they approach. And there's a huge difference between hearing someone and listening to them.
If you don't know what that difference is, you're in the right place because I'm going to explain it to you.
So listen up.
First, listen to me...then go out and listen to her. Because every time you stop spewing words, vomiting sounds, and speaking simply to hold her attention, she'll drop a clue on how she wants you to proceed. Will you just hear her, or will you listen to her?
To keep things in the realm of the applicable, let's "decode" some of the common things women say so you can understand what's underneath the words. That way if you train yourself to listen, you can train yourself to understand exactly what she wants and needs.
I'm going to break down, piece-by-piece, a very common thing most guys will hear in the first couple minutes of a cold approach.
I'm going to explain the pretext, subtext, context, and sexting (well...maybe not sexting) then I'm going to list similar phrases to listen for when interacting with women, and what they really mean.
"Why are you ______________?" (Examples: Why are you asking me this? Why are you talking to me?)
Often the first question asked is not who, what, where, or when--but why. If you're doing a cold approach, initially women are most interested in your motivations. Let's face it: a guy introducing himself to a stranger is not something normal people do.
As such, there are only two types of people who do cold approaches: the totally fucking awesome and the totally fucking creepy (!).
This is no secret. Every attractive girl knows this and, unfortunately, they've seen way more of the "creepy" variety. So don't fault her for her initial skepticism.
And more importantly, don't ignore it. Because she needs to determine that you are, in fact, fucking awesome.
So when you hear a woman flippantly ask you a "why" question, you know she's really saying, "Let me see your motivation."
Well... just what is your motivation? If you're a creepy pickup artist, then your motivation is probably impressing men on the internet with your amazing tales of back turns and frame control.
If, however, you're like me and my friends, then your motivation is probably a two-fold quest of
1.) being totally awesome, and
2.) meeting some totally awesome babes.
And since meeting awesome babes adds to your general awesomeness, you're picking up two birds with one approach. (Sorry, the other expression about "killing two birds" just seemed too brutal for an article on listening to women!)
Now that we know what she wants--what's under her words--how are we going to give it to her? Lots of guys would attempt to answer her question verbally, soliloquizing their awesome motivations.
But we all know actions speak louder than words. So demonstrate your non-creepy, totally awesome motivations by bringing her into your party.
Show her you're awesome and you want her to be part of that awesomeness. I know every girl I've met in the past year or so have happily entered my world--not the other way around.
Rather than trying to prod her with questions in a feeble attempt to sneak into her party and her world, bring her into yours. This way, she'll see your motivation through your stories, your sense of humor, your slick dance moves, your super cool friends, and your overall awesomeness.
And all because you listened to what she said. You gave her what she wanted, without her directly asking for it.
Examples To Use
Got it? Good. Here are more common phrases that most guys hear, but don't listen to.
"I don't even know you!" = She wants you to tone down the flirting and ramp up the realness. Get to know her.
"Are you going to buy me a drink?" = You're coming across weak and backboneless. Start imposing boundaries and demonstrating your confidence.
"Slow down, we hardly know each other." = She likes you, but you're acting way too horny and aggressive. Slow down and chill.
"Some other guy said the same thing to me." = You're coming across like you're nervous or in your head. If she's calling you out for using a "line," it's probably not the line itself but your delivery. Breathe deep and enter the now.
"Do you do this a lot?" = She is impressed, but doesn't feel special. Every girl wants to believe you've never done a cold approach in your life, but you were so moved by her beauty that somehow you know exactly what to do/say. (Hey, guys want to believe girls are into the stuff they see in porn films...so both genders are delusional.) Make her feel special and let her have her fantasy (and she may let you have yours).
"How do I know you're not a psycho?" = She likes you and she's busting your balls to see how you're going to respond. Guess what: if she thought you were a psycho, she'd never say something like this. Guys often freak out when women say this and try to convince her of all the reasons they're not psycho (which makes them look psycho.) Be cool and tell her about the bodies you have chopped up in your refrigerator. (Because if you really were a psycho, you'd never say something like this.)
"You're not my type." = Again, you she likes you and she's busting your balls. If you really weren't her type (or, more appropriately, weren't a guy she'd feel attracted to) then she'd say, "I have to go to the bathroom" or give you the old "let's just be friends" excuse. If a woman says this to you, she likes you but wants to see how you'll react to her challenge. Flirt it off, champ.
So that's a little "starter's guide" to listening to women. All the "research" I did to write this article came from...wait for it...wait for it...LISTENING TO WOMEN!
The list you should have in your own head about what women are actually saying should be 100X times as long as this one...and it should all be derived from your own experience, from listening to women.
So get out there. Chat up some ladies. And listen to what they're saying!

Keep it Real
X.A

There's a major misconception that has kept guys from getting laid for years. The misconception involves humor. We all know that women love "men who can make them laugh"--in fact, women's magazines often rank humor THE most attractive quality in a man.

However, the misconception lies in understanding attractive humor. Most guys mistake humor for comedy, believing that if you can't tell jokes or perform a standup routine that you're doomed to forever be unfunny around women.
This couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, "comedy" is almost something entirely different from cultivating the ability to "make women laugh." You're probably wondering: How so? In an attempt to keep things simple, let's hit the bullet points.