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Success [5 Fashion Laws]
Hey, what's going on?
I have some bad news and I have...some really bad news.
The bad news is that I only get asked once or twice a month for
fashion tips. That greatly outnumbers the number of times a month I'm
asked about getting a 15 second make out with a girl you just met...you get the points.
Guys just don't seem to care how
they're dressed, or they don't even consider how it's affecting their
success with women.
But, now on to the *REALLY* bad news. Every night I go out, I see
dozens of guys dressed in a way that's...absolutely horrible. I'm sorry,
but there's no nice way to describe how most guys dress.
And why should we be nice about this? Changing your outfit only
takes a few minutes, but it can have a DRAMATIC impact on the success
with have with women.
And that's why today's post will focus on...
Fashion.
I know, I know. For some of you, seeing that word probably inspired
some grumbling and eye rolls. Just bear with me. And for some other guys
out there reading, you might truly believe that you're dressing
well--even though you're not.
So, today I want to offer *VITAL* men's fashion laws. Most guys
could at least benefit from one--if not all--of the simple tips I'm
going to outline.
Keep in mind, I'm no Versaci myself, but I do have an attentive eye
on the way men dress (as it relates to attracting women). I'm less
concerned with the hottest fall colors than I am with just getting you
to look good.
So these tips, while simple, can be regarded as the "men's fashion
laws" for looking attractive. No matter what season, no matter what
style, following these guidelines will keep you looking your absolute
best.
1. Layering
If you want an eye-catching outfit without resorting to "peacocking"
then develop an eye for detail and combinations. Nothing expresses your
personality better than 2 or 3 layers of carefully coordinated clothes.
I still stand by my own all-time favorite 3 piece sexy casual
combination:
1.) button-down shirt,
2.) light, zip-up hoodie,
3.)
sports coat.
Just mix and match whites, blacks, and grays to create an interesting outfit (without coming off try-hard).
Here's an example:
2. Clothes that fit
I say it again and again, but I still see 4 out of 5 guys wearing baggy clothes that make them look sloppy. I don't care if you're 20-30 pounds overweight, you'd STILL look better wearing clothes that fit.
As a rule of thumb, if you can grasp more of a handful of fabric on your shirt or pants that means it's way too baggy. Also, if ANYTHING is bunched (e.g., pants legs), get it tailored--immediately. Bunchy and baggy is equal to sloppy and ugly.
Here's a guy whose clothes fit him:
(Note: And, yes, that includes your jacket--especially your jacket!)
3. Unbutton, untucked
Again, another faux pas that seems obvious, but guys are out committing it again and again. Just type "men's fashion" into Google and see how many pictures feature guys with tucked-in or fully-buttoned shirts.
And, if that doesn't convince you, go out and observe how many guys with hot girls have their shirts tucked in or buttons buttoned.
YET STILL, at every conference I speak at, on every live program I teach, and every time I'm recognized out, I meet dating advice students who tuck in their shirts in and are fully buttoned up.
In fact, if I've met you and my first comment was, "Untuck your shirt and undo about 3 of those buttons," don't be offended (I say it to everyone); however, heed my advice! Women want guys who let it "hang out"--so do it!
4. Quality versus quantity
I doubt anyone reading is attending runway shows or salivating over this year's Prada outdoor line. Though, buying "cheap" brands because it saves you a couple bucks is just not worth it in the long run.
I, too, was once guilty of "bargain hunting," trying to find all my clothing at inexpensive stores like H&M and TJ Maxx. While you will certainly find some cool pieces there (especially shirts and vests to incorporate into layering), for fashion necessities go with quality brands.
For example, shell out a little extra money for jeans and jackets/coats. While it may hurt a bit up front to drop $150 for a pair of Diesel jeans or $400 for an Armani trench coat, you'll look forward to wearing these items and feel good every time you put them on.
5. Experiment a bit
No, I don't mean that type of experimenting. I mean experiment with some "riskier" fashion items. For example, try wearing a neck tie out or a vest or a button-down argyle sweater.
Thumb through an issue of GQ and see what the "very fashionable" male models are wearing and experiment with it. Sure, it may feel a bit "incongruent" at first, but you'll probably find lots of people commenting on your intrepid outfit. Sure some guys may tool you, but the corollary to that is that some girls will find you irresistibly sexy.
Again, let me just reiterate that this is NOT "peacocking" where you wear something absurd simply to get a reaction out of people--this is you being "highly stylish" and in synch with tomorrow's fashion staples.
And who knows, you just may stumble on a "fashion law" that applies only to you and makes you look devilishly more charming than the average guy who's still going out in graphic print t-shirts and American Eagle jeans. (If that's you, please stop immediately.)
keep it real
X.A
