And one of the questions I
keep getting is: "What if I
really like her and want more than just sex..." So let's address that
concern. My girlfriend would
probably describe me a "good"
boyfriend... I take good care of her, treat her well, I'm
compromising, I pay attention to her, and I listen to her problems and
try to help her through them... But here's the thing...
My girlfriend would NEVER have described any of those characteristics
about me when we FIRST MET... In fact, after we had been dating for a
awhile I
asked her what her initial opinion of me was... She told me I seemed
like the type of guy only looking for "fun"... And she
assumed I was probably sleeping with a ton of other girls... AND that
I didn't seem like the
boyfriend "type". Yet, here she is, still with me. So what's my point?
My point is that a mistake you might be making is
confusing "boyfriend qualities"
for attraction. ==>

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I know I did before I figured
this out.. I used to unconsciously try to show a girl what a "good"
boyfriend I would be... I would make mistakes like:
1. Trying too hard to find commonalities and rapport.

2. Focus on showing her that you have a good job, like to travel, and
other "boyfriend" traits

3. Taking her side when she
bad mouthed players, and act like you're totally the opposite of those 'jerks'

4. Respecting her too much to
make a move...

5. Being too generous towards
her

6. Listening to all her problems
and trying to solve them for her...

7. Make a lot of compromises
so that you get along better

8. Paying too much attention
to her..

If you've been dating a girl fo a year, it is fine to do all of those
things for a girl... and if you want to keep her, you probably have
to... But... When you're first meeting a girl the LAST thing you want
to do is demonstrate what a great boyfriend you would be..
Why? Because it DOES NOT create
SEXUAL attraction in a woman... Even if it makes her think "he
would make a great boyfriend..." You still lose... Because once a girl
thinks that she begins displaying her "good girlfriend" qualities that
are just as "boring" and "un-sexual" as your boyfriend qualities...
Not only that, but you build up too much comfort with her, and
drastically eliminate any urgency for sex... Plus... you're no longer
a challenge. Game over. Go home. What should you do instead? Treat
every girl you
meet like you're just looking
for "fun"... Don't be afraid that
she might think you're only
looking for sex... Here is a cold
hard fact... Most girls wind up
dating the guy they thought
was ONLY looking for sex... Don't be overly agreeable, infact, don't
be afraid to be slightly
antagonistic.
FLIRT WITH HER...
Tease her in a playful way, mix in some elements of uncertainty so she
can't quite figure you out... and Escalate.. And remember, even if
you think you might really like a girl, even if you're thinking that
she is
"girlfriend material" you still
need to drop the "good boyfriend" act. "Good"
Boyfriends don't get
laid...

Keep it real
X.A