Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through
Cosmo, she has the most gorgeous face you've ever
seen.

Her hair is silky brown. Her skin looks so radiant
and so incredibly soft.

You would be on top of the world if you could
pick her this girl up.

You feel the fear deep in your gut.

You know that even if you got your balls in gear
and went for it, you wouldn't know what to say.

You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would
reject yourself if you were her.

So you shy away from even approaching her in the
first place.

Does this situation sound familiar?

If so, keep reading...

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The first thing for you to realize is that all
guys get anxiety about approaching women.

I know I certainly do.

But what separates you (and me) from the rest of
the guys is...

What You Do About Your Fear.

Most guys let fear paralyze them... not just about
chicks, but about other things in their life like
their career... which is why, unfortunately, most
guys will never find the success they want.

...

First, look at where your fear comes from.

The problem is inside of you. It's not with the
chicks.

If you're thinking about rejection, then that
means you're making your approaches with a certain
outcome in mind. (I'm just guessing, but I think
if you're like most guys, your goal is getting
chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid.)

Try this instead... approach without having any
expectations. No goals.

Let me tell you about a problem I used to have.

I'm inclined to be an introvert.

So to overcome my shyness, I would force
myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they
were... hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old
people, men, people walking dogs, etc.

I would talk about neutral topics with them,
nothing to do with picking up chicks.

The net result from all of that was I became
really good at approaching people.

After that, however, I made a mistake. I said
to myself, "Since I'm so good at approaching
people and have become an outgoing person, why
am I wasting time talking to anyone other
than hot chicks?"

So then I limited the people I talked to...
and my anxiety about talking to random women
swept over me once again.

It was as if I'd never had all that practice
chatting up strangers in the first place.

At that point I realized it was because I was
outcome-dependent.

Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try
to lay this chick" in my mind... before I'd
even opened my mouth to say "hi"... and so I
would crash and burn. It sucked.

Here's something I want you to try. Whenever
you go out, talk to three people, but do it
just for practice. Don't do it for real.

Because it's just for practice, don't limit
yourself to just talking to hot women.

In general, I've found that elderly people
(both males and females) and fat women are
easy to talk to.

If it helps, set up a time limit for your
practice interactions, like that you'll talk
to the person for 30 seconds and then you'll
get out of the conversation.

(Say something like, "Well, I'm on my way to
meeting a friend. Good chatting with you."

And then walk away without making a big deal
of it.)

Once you've done your practices and feel
warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks.

Again though, do it without having any sort
of sex-related outcome in mind.

For example, if a chick passes by you in a
hallway, just say, "Hey, I need a quick
female opinion on something." (Then ask a
bout something that you genuinely want a
female opinion on.)

Remember though: have no outcome in mind.

So it doesn't matter if the chick responds
rudely.

In fact, when you reach a point that you've
chatted up lots of women, you'll find that
eventually rude responses on their part mean
nothing. You'll have an attitude of "ha, how
original... I've had tons of women give me
that exact same 'clever' rude comment."

I've been rejected hideously, time and time
again. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me
before I could even get out my initial sentence.

...

Another time I thought it was amusing when I
approached a group of two girls, just for
practice, and right after I said "hey," they
both turned their backs on me in unison, as if
they were synchronized dancers!

Now I just look back on all of that and laugh.

My point is that the more you approach, the
more you'll reach a level where you notice that
most people act in the same, predictable ways.

It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety.

...

Think of it as trying to build a house. You put
down one brick at a time and cement it.

Brick, cement.

Brick, cement.

It'll take a long time, but eventually, the
walls will be up (which means you've finished
the toughest part of the job).

...

To get a bit more psychological, there's really
no such thing as "being nervous." You don't
"get nervous," like it's some kind of flu virus
that invades your body.

All feelings of nervousness come from within. You
have a certain series of thought processes that
you go through before you become nervous.

You say things to yourself. (When you think
thoughts like, "I would reject myself," it sets
you up for failure!)

You picture the chicks rejecting you. You feel
tense in your body. And so on.

So what you can do to break this is to identify
it for what it is.

Notice your negative thoughts and change them.

Instead of thinking, "Oh my God, this chick is
going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble
my words"... think, "It's awesome that I'm making
this approach, because if this chick rejects me,
that means I've gotten her out of the way and
I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl."

Notice where you feel tense in your body, and
then let your muscles relax in those areas.

For me, I feel tense in my jaw and face when
I'm nervous. So when I relax my jaw and facial
muscles, it alleviates a lot of my tension.

...

I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this
advice:

1) Be social for the sake of being social.

Nothing else.

2) Remember that the only way to get over your
fear is by doing the thing you fear. The more
you do it, the easier it gets, because your
attitude about the experiences will become,

"Been there, done that, it's no big deal."

3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force
yourself to replace them with good ones.

4) Ease the physical tension you have in
your body when you feel nervous.

Finally; the key to FOREVER eliminating nervousness
is to approach women with a certain ATTITUDE in
mind.