An incredible social life is the
cornerstone of a successful dating life. It's a simple equation: More
people = more opportunities = More girls

But what can you do if you're
a guy who doesn't have a great social life? Well there's a couple of
solutions. In the fact, I've perfected a simple 7-step system for
dominating ANY social
encounter: .

Step #1
Call your friends The first step is to provide a simple baseline for
the rest of this plan. Right now, you probably have a core group of
friends who are part of your social circle. If you want to meet more
people then you're going to start with this group. So the initial
thing to do is call up your friends and make plans to do something
different. The key is to organize an event which brings you out of
your comfort zone and make you fun stuff. In other words, you want to
start going to places which provide a social environment. .

Step # 2
Look for hidden opportunities As you become more social
you're going the likelihood of getting invited to different events.
Due to inertia, most guys avoid "uncomfortable
environments." Instead of doing this, you should start going
to these events EVEN if you
don't think they'll be fun. The truth is you never know what'll happen
when you try different things. Perhaps the most boring event could
provide a chance to meet an interesting girl. So never pass up an
invitation to an event. The rule of thumb is if you don't have plans,
you'll ALWAYS accept an invitation to do something. .

Step # 3
Make friends While it's great to have old friends, your social
life can get a real shot in the
arm if you start making new friends at the events you're frequenting.
One piece of advice I
recommend is to talk to EVERYONE at these events. Even if it's a bunch
of guys, you can still get a lot of social mileage by talking to
people who
have connections. Even the most mundane person probably knows a few
attractive women. By making connections with
everyone, you're giving yourself opportunities to find new friends and
meet more girls.

Step #4- Keep contact with
your new friends I like to think of friends as currency. The more you
have, the more
you opportunities you'll accumulate. As you meet new people, you'll
start to build
momentum on the number of
buddies you'll acquire. In order to maximize your opportunities, you
should maintain constant
contact with the friends that you're making. Even if you're just
sending a quick email, a
consistent correspondence with your friends will improve your social
life. By communicating with your friends you'll stick out in their
minds when a cool event is about to happen. .

Step #5
Keep up to date Almost every area has lots of fun stuff
happening. The problem is most guys won't bother to look for
them. Instead they're satisfied with doing the same thing over and
over. Don't be like these guys. Instead become the man who is up to
date on all events happening in your area.
All you have to do is open you're local paper and you'll have access
to dozens, even hundreds of fun things going
on. Right now, commit yourself
to spending a few minutes each week looking for interesting events
going on in your area. .

Step #6
Plan events It's human nature to want to be around fun people. So if
you become the guy who plans out the fun times
then you'll become the focal
point of your social circle. What you want to do is plan out a few
different interesting activities EACH month and invite
everyone that you know. Eventually the people in your
social life will look to you to plan out the good times. Over time,
you can use these events to meet interesting women. .

Step #7
Be fun Finally, you have to go
beyond being the guy who plans out fun events. At all times, you must
display a fun and interesting personality. When you attend social
activities, you should be regarded as the guy who can make others have
a
good time. The truth is most people live boring lives. If you're the
source of interesting experiences then people will want to hang out
with you. The end result is you'll become the first person they call
when they want to have a fun night. Improving your social life is
one of the crucial elements for meeting and dating a lot of women. If
you follow the seven rules I just discussed, then you'll discover that
it's pretty easy to
transform into a fun guy who
has an incredible social life.

Been a social rockstar is so much fun an oppotunity opener. So give it
a chance and i dont mean you should start smoking, drinking or doing
drugs. So stay out of that. And keep it real

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Asking out a woman is usually the first and most important step towards getting her. The problem is what do you do to maintain that attraction? In other words, how to do create heaps of sexual chemistry on that first date? Well first off, it's important to understand WHAT really makes a woman attracted to a guy. Now the truth is many guys stress out over the first date, and for good reason. Worries over what to say or do flood the mind, making the event seem more like a chore than a pleasurable experience. The good news is there are a number of small techniques you can use to create LOTS of sexual tension on your first date. So pay close attention to the following...
.
Tip #1

Don't Set Yourself Up for Disappointment In other words, relax. By conjuring up visions of
what would make the date perfect, just go with the flow. If you're nervous, it's going to show, so take a few deep breaths and chill out. Don't attach any expectations to the date, and you won't be disappointed.
Understand that there is a possibility that the evening won't go as planned, and if that happens, it's no big deal. There are other girls and other dates to be had. Plan nothing in advance other than to have a great time. .


Tip #2   Limit your time

A lot of guys pull out all the stops for the first date, which is the WORST thing you can do. A first date is a lot like a job interview, in that you're trying to determine if there's relationship potential. With that said, save the five-star dinners for after you've qualified her, Instead take her out for coffee/ drinks or something physical, like a hike. Or even a quick trip to the mall.
.
Tip #3 - Be in control and plan out the date

There's nothing more appealing to a woman than a man who's in control and knows what he wants. Know ahead of time where you'd like to take your date, and have a backup destination in case of unforeseen circumstances. Not only will you be more attractive in her eyes, but you'll also have the ability to limit your time as previously discussed..


Tip #4 - Have fun and flirt

The most important element to a fun first date is the chemistry. You want to build rapport with the woman, and the only way to do that is to have fun. Give her "the eye," lightly touch her arm, and tease her lightly.
By flirting and maintaining a playful attitude, you'll enhance the sexual attraction needed to ensure future dates. People respond directly to the energy they'r subjected to. Your aim with the first date is to make the woman relaxed in your presence, and she won't be able to do that if you're nervous and on edge. Instead, realize that you're out with a beautiful woman, and enjoy your time with her. You'll create an evening she'll never forget.


. Tip #5 - Know when to break the rules
The preceding rules should be used as guidelines, but they aren't unbreakable. For example, if the two of you really hit it off,don't bother limiting your time, and take her home instead. Use your own judgment, and if you feel a rule isn't working, make an necessary tweaks to ensure a fantastic first date. The most important element to a successful first date is your attitude. If you relax and have fun, your date will too. Your aim is to build a solid rapport that will lead to many more dates to come. Use these five tips, and every first date will be an amazing one. Finally, the key to a successful date is knowing how to flirt.

This tricks realy works try them out

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And one of the questions I
keep getting is: "What if I
really like her and want more than just sex..." So let's address that
concern. My girlfriend would
probably describe me a "good"
boyfriend... I take good care of her, treat her well, I'm
compromising, I pay attention to her, and I listen to her problems and
try to help her through them... But here's the thing...
My girlfriend would NEVER have described any of those characteristics
about me when we FIRST MET... In fact, after we had been dating for a
awhile I
asked her what her initial opinion of me was... She told me I seemed
like the type of guy only looking for "fun"... And she
assumed I was probably sleeping with a ton of other girls... AND that
I didn't seem like the
boyfriend "type". Yet, here she is, still with me. So what's my point?
My point is that a mistake you might be making is
confusing "boyfriend qualities"
for attraction. ==>

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I know I did before I figured
this out.. I used to unconsciously try to show a girl what a "good"
boyfriend I would be... I would make mistakes like:
1. Trying too hard to find commonalities and rapport.

2. Focus on showing her that you have a good job, like to travel, and
other "boyfriend" traits

3. Taking her side when she
bad mouthed players, and act like you're totally the opposite of those 'jerks'

4. Respecting her too much to
make a move...

5. Being too generous towards
her

6. Listening to all her problems
and trying to solve them for her...

7. Make a lot of compromises
so that you get along better

8. Paying too much attention
to her..

If you've been dating a girl fo a year, it is fine to do all of those
things for a girl... and if you want to keep her, you probably have
to... But... When you're first meeting a girl the LAST thing you want
to do is demonstrate what a great boyfriend you would be..
Why? Because it DOES NOT create
SEXUAL attraction in a woman... Even if it makes her think "he
would make a great boyfriend..." You still lose... Because once a girl
thinks that she begins displaying her "good girlfriend" qualities that
are just as "boring" and "un-sexual" as your boyfriend qualities...
Not only that, but you build up too much comfort with her, and
drastically eliminate any urgency for sex... Plus... you're no longer
a challenge. Game over. Go home. What should you do instead? Treat
every girl you
meet like you're just looking
for "fun"... Don't be afraid that
she might think you're only
looking for sex... Here is a cold
hard fact... Most girls wind up
dating the guy they thought
was ONLY looking for sex... Don't be overly agreeable, infact, don't
be afraid to be slightly
antagonistic.
FLIRT WITH HER...
Tease her in a playful way, mix in some elements of uncertainty so she
can't quite figure you out... and Escalate.. And remember, even if
you think you might really like a girl, even if you're thinking that
she is
"girlfriend material" you still
need to drop the "good boyfriend" act. "Good"
Boyfriends don't get
laid...

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Let's say you're kissing a woman and want to take it further. What do you do?

Do you awkwardly grope her boob - hoping it turns her on?

Do you kiss her until you have blue balls?

Or do you turn her on until she stops you and takes her top off for you?

The smart money's on this last one. But it's easier said than done:

After all, each woman has her own, unique "hot spots" on her body. And
it takes awhile to find them all.

Luckily, most women have 4 special places on her body you can touch,
kiss, lick or bite to make her light up with lust. And they're easy to
get to:

#1 - Her Inner Elbow!

The skin between her forearm and her bicep is super sensitive. And a
gentle kiss here can drive her wild. Try brushing your fingertips down
her arm, first. Then graze over this spot to make her moan.

#2 - Behind Her Knee!

This spot is just like her inner elbow. Except since it's harder to
get to, it's even less loved. Try giving her a calf massage and then
touching this spot on the way up to massage the back of her thighs.

#3 - Her Wrists!

You can thank evolution for this one: Since so many blood vessels flow
under the skin here, this area is super sensitive. (We need to know if
it's in danger.)

This means a gentle touch here can give her goosebumps. And you can
use your mouth to kiss or bite for an added sense of danger. (Just be
careful, this can be too intense for some women.)

Finally...

#4 - Her Neck!

It's a classic: Kissing a woman's neck is sure to turn her on. But
have you ever tried something more intense?

I have no idea why, but many woman like having their necks bitten.
Some gentle. Some about as hard as you can.

A good way to start is a slow, gentle nip on the skin between her neck
and her shoulder. Add just a little pressure.

If she likes it, add a little more pressure. Watching her reaction the
whole time. If your woman likes being bitten, she's probably down to
be tied up and other kinky things, too.

So there you have it: Four secret places to touch, kiss or bite to
turn your woman on. Get her excited enough and she will make the first
move.

And just like all women have 4 sensitive spots on their bodies, most
women have 4 (or more) sensitive types of conversation you can use to
make her attracted to you. They're simply hardwired into her genetic
code

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There are endless resources out there to help a woman with her
flirting skills. She's fully equipped with information about how to
make you notice her. She's been properly schooled about how she should
lean into the conversation -- body language, you know. She knows to
cross her legs toward you and absently tug her hair while intently
listening to you talk, all while managing to rest her elbow nearly
against yours the whole time. It's like a game of
Twister that she's actually
mastered. But you -- you haven't got the first clue where to start.
You're not a game-playing kind of guy. You prefer to just tell a lady
you like her and see where it goes from there. But, if you find
yourself reading this article, it probably hasn't really gone
anywhere, so it's time to brush up on your flirting skills. Here are
five tips to coax out your inner flirt.

5: Act Interested
Depending on the kind of advice you've received in the past, this may
either seem too on the nose or completely counter intuitive. Of course
you need to act interested, you think. How else will she know I like
her? Or, you may have the opinion that girls seem more interested in
guys who ignore them, so will you look like you have no game if you
actually let on that you're
interested? Playing coy may work for women flirting with men, but when
the shoe is on the other foot, women need to know you're interested.
Just not too interested. Confused yet? Let's break it down. If you're
attracted to someone, you need to give her some sort of idea that this
is the case. But at the flirting stage of any relationship, things
need to be light and fun. So, managing the intensity of your interest
is important. Pay enough attention that she gets the hint, but don't
come on so strong that she gets creeped out.

4: Play Hard to Get
Yes, we realize this seems like a complete contradiction of the advice
we gave you in No. 5, but it's not exactly. It's human nature to
desire what may not be yours, so it's good to pay attention to the
woman of your pursuits, but maybe not too much attention at first.
This means don't fawn all over her, complimenting her every feature
and acting like you can't live without her. This could quickly fall
into stalker territory. If you're in a group, be sure to talk to other
people, especially other women. Just don't flirt with the other women
because this will send mixed signals to the one you like. You don't
want the apple of your eye to give up on you entirely. When you're
talking to her, don't overly approve of
everything she says. You don't want to go overboard and reject her
comments, but it's OK to let her wonder what you're thinking about.
Yes, this all falls under the category of games, which generally isn't
a good idea in relationships. But all is fair in
the flirting arena.

3: Get Physical
Remember in elementary school when you chased the pretty girl around
the playground and grabbed her ponytail? She probably wondered why you
were bullying her, having no idea that you were trying to let
her know that you secretly liked her. Fortunately, you've both gotten
a little better at giving and receiving body language cues, so pain is
no longer required to get her attention. But a little touch is still a
great way to let a lady know that you're into her. The big rule in
this is to make sure the touch is appropriate. Anything perceived as
groping will likely land you a slap on the face and an escort out the
door. But finding an excuse to grab her hand is a great way to test
the waters and see if the feelings are reciprocal. Maybe it's
legitimate, like trying to stay with her in a crowd, or maybe you have
to make up a reason, like pretending to read her palm. The good news
is, if she keeps her hand in yours, she probably likes you. But if she
quickly pulls away, you may need to put on the brakes.

2: Make Her Laugh
It's no secret that making a woman laugh is one of the quickest ways
to get her attention. Believe it or not, for many ladies, funny and
charming rank right up there with handsome and athletic. Why do you
think Jack Black or Ramsy Noah gets romantic leads in movies? In
regard to being a funny guy, obviously, we're not talking about
pulling out your full bag of funny jokes. And you may want to avoid
making light of politics or religion until you know where she stands
on those issues. You can always start by lightly make fun of yourself.
Self-deprecation, if done right, lets her know you're confident enough
to laugh at yourself, and that is a turn-on. Lightly making fun of her
in an appreciative way is another flirting technique that will clue
her in that you like her -- as long as you keep it on the level. You
don't want to turn it into a roast. You'll definitely want to skip the
butt jokes unless she makes one first. And even then, you're probably
best
avoiding any jokes about her body unless she's a swimsuit model.
Remember, light and fun is the name of the game.

1: Be Curious
By nature, communication is important to most women. Why else do you
think they would spend hours on the phone with their girlfriends and
mothers? And in general, women are used to men being less interested
in their ramblings. So, you want to
know one of the best flirting
techniques? Ask questions, and then actually listen to the answers.
Demonstrating an ability to listen in a genuinely interested way will
drive you up the ranks and fast. Is she wearing a cool piece of
jewelry? There may be an interesting story behind it. She'll know if
you're faking it, though, so don't go overboard if the story isn't
actually all that interesting.
And do be careful of falling into the trap of the lovesick best
friend. This means you may want to avoid lending an ear about anything
related to current or past relationship troubles. This is the kind of
stuff that lands you in the nice-guys-finish-last category.
So keep all thoes questions away.

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Standing at the front of a
magazine company/billboard and she has the most gorgeous face you've
ever seen. Her hair is silky brown. Her skin
looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. You would be on top of the
world if you could
pick her this girl up. You feel the fear deep in your
gut. You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it,
you wouldn't know what to say. You feel so nervous and fumbly that you
would reject yourself if you were her.
So you shy away from even
approaching her in the first place. Does this situation sound
familiar? If so, keep reading...
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The first thing for you to realize
is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women.
I know I certainly do. But what separates you (and me) from the rest
of these guys is...
What You Do About Your Fear.
Most guys let fear paralyze them... not just about chicks, but about
other things in
their life like their career... which is why, unfortunately, most guys
will never find the
success they want.
...
First, look at where your fear comes from. The problem is inside of
you. It's not with the chicks. If you're thinking about rejection,
then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome
in mind. (I'm just guessing, but I think if you're like most guys,
your goal
is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid.) Try this
instead... approach
without having any expectations. No goals. Let me tell you about a
problem I used to have. I'm inclined to be an
introvert. So to overcome my
shyness, I would force myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they
were... hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old people, men, people
walking dogs, etc.
I would talk about neutral topics
with them, nothing to do with picking up chicks. The net result from
all of that was I became
really good at approaching people. After that, however, I made a
mistake. I said to myself,
"Since I'm so good at approaching people and have become an outgoing
person, why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot
chicks?" So then I limited the people I talked to... and my anxiety
about talking to
random women swept over me once again. It was as if I'd never had all
that practice chatting up strangers in the first
place. At that point I realized it
was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had thoughts like "I'm
going to try to lay this chick" in my mind... before I'd even opened
my mouth to say
"hi"... and so I would crash and burn. It sucked. Here's something I want you to
try. Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but do it
just for practice. Don't do it for real. Because it's just for
practice, don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women.
In general, I've found that
elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are
easy to talk to. If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice
interactions, like that you'll talk to the person for 30 seconds and
then you'll get out of the conversation. (Say something like, "Well,
I'm on my way to meeting a friend. Good chatting
with you." And then walk away
without making a big deal of it.)
Once you've done your practices
and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks. Again though, do
it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind.
For example, if a chick passes by
you in a hallway, just say, "Hey, I
need a quick female opinion on something." (Then ask about something
that you genuinely want a female opinion on.)
Remember though: have no
outcome in mind. So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely.
In fact, when you reach a
point that you've chatted up lots of women, you'll find that
eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing. You'll have an
attitude of "ha, how original... I've had tons of women give me that
exact same 'clever'
rude comment." I've been rejected hideously, time and time
again. One chick screamed
"Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.
... Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of
two girls, just for
practice, and right after I said "hey," they both turned their backs
on me in unison, as if
they were synchronized dancers! Now I just look back on all of that
and laugh. My point is that the more you approach, the more you'll
reach a level
where you notice that most people act in the same, predictable ways.
It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety.
...
Think of it as trying to build
a house. You put down one brick at a time and cement it.
Brick, cement.
Brick, cement.
It'll take a long time, but eventually, the walls will be up (which
means you've finished
the toughest part of the job). ...
To get a bit more psychological,
there's really no such thing as "being nervous." You don't
"get nervous," like it's some
kind of flu virus that invades your body. All feelings of nervousness
come from within. You have a certain series of
thought processes that you go through before you become nervous. You
say things to yourself. (When you think thoughts like, "I would reject
myself," it sets you up for failure!)
You picture the chicks rejecting
you. You feel tense in your body. And so on. So what you can do to
break this is to identify it for what it is.
Notice your negative thoughts
and change them.
Instead of thinking, "Oh my
God, this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my
words"... think, "It's
awesome that I'm making this approach, because if this chick rejects
me, that means I've gotten her out of the way and
I'm one step closer to finding my
dream girl." Notice where you feel tense in your body, and
then let your muscles relax in
those areas. For me, I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous.
So when I relax my
jaw and facial muscles, it alleviates a lot of my tension.
... I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice:
1) Be social for the sake of
being social. Nothing else.
2) Remember that the only way to get over your fear is by doing the
thing you fear. The more you do it, the easier it gets, because your
attitude about the experiences
will become, "Been there, done that, it's no big deal."
3) Recognize your bad thoughts
and force yourself to replace them with good ones.
4) Ease the physical tension you
have in your body when you feel
nervous.

The basic factor is that you must talk to all and every girl you come
in contact with, this will build up your convo skills, strenght and
confidence to face Oprah winfrey herself.

Practice make perfect.

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