*****From the Mailbag***** Hi, Loving the blog posts bro! I
actually print out your tips and
tape them up around my dorm
room. You guys have helped
me a lot, but I have 1 question:
WHAT SHOULD I DO ON FACEBOOK?! I'm in college and
almost every girl has a
Facebook profile, but I'm
clueless on there! Thanks for
the help and keep up the great
work! Jimmy

*****X.A's response*****
Wow, sometimes I think Mark
Zuckerberg invented sex
considering how many times a
day I get asked for tips on
how to use Facebook! First, realize that Facebook is
simply an extension of your
personality--just like
everything else you do around
women. To think there's some
magical Facebook formula to suddenly make girls fall in love
with you over a computer is
more absurd than Zuckerberg's
Velcro hear. ;-) Although, I CAN share ways to
"work the angles" so that you
use Facebook to complement
your assets and ensure you're
always putting your best self
(profile?) forward for the ladies. Here are my 3½
Facebook tips for dating (and
casual dating) success:

1. Personality by proxy In today's digital age, we have
the luxury of demonstrating
our personality through
Facebook newsfeeds, Twitter
updates, YouTube videos,
pictures, and blog posts. Unlike the dark ages before
social media, a girl no longer
needs to see you in the flesh to
get a sense of your
awesomeness. She can get a
glimpse of your wit, charm, and sex appeal just by
checking out your newsfeed
while surfing the net on her
laptop. It is important, however, that
you use the newsfeed wisely.
Don't "SPAM" your personality.
Ideally, you should aim to mix
a healthy dose of witty
comments and observations, pictures, and external links. Examples of
witty comments
may include the following
(credit: the Twitter page of
@therobjudge) therobjudge: Sometimes I wish
Twitter rules applied in real life,
limiting people to 120
characters before having to
shut the fuck up! therobjudge: Has anyone else
noticed that Captain Hook is a
HUGE pedophile? Guy lives in
Never-Never Land amongst
little boys, luring them to his
'boat' therobjudge: Gym grunter
back at it again. Guy sounds
like he's having intense
intercourse with a porcupine.
Yes it's really that bad. Examples of pictures are
obvious: anything you're
doing that is awesome. For
example, don't take "boring"
pics of you with a shit-eating
grin, obviously posing for a picture; instead, snap a picture
with your iPhone as you're
chugging a pitcher of beer,
taking a piss on the side of the
road during an awesome
roadtrip, or doing something else that shows ACTION.
Always ask yourself: what
does this picture say
about ME. If it just says you're
a smiling douche bag, don't
post it! Finally, examples of external
links should be some awesome
thing you did in written,
picture, or video form.
Ideally, you should shoot for
an update at 9:30am, 2pm, and
6pm. If you're having an
exceptional day, post more but
be careful not to overdo it. You
don't want to seem like the guy who's tweeting too hard
or lives on Facebook (that guy
SUCKS).
2. Oversell whatever you do If you want to get a girl to
hang out with you, warm her
up to the idea by overselling
the event well in advance of
inviting her. For instance, say
you want to invite a girl out for drinks on Thursday night--
she should be reading posts
like, "Off to paint the town
awesome at O'Flannagan's pub.
Chugging pitchers of ambrosia
and singing 80s songs-- heavenly!" the Thursday prior
(at around 6pm of course). If you also post pictures of you
and your co-ed group of
friends having a blast, it
sweetens the pot even more.
You have to ask yourself: are
you the creep trying to weasel your way into her party, or
are you the man who's going
to suck her into your party? The grass is always greener on
the other side, so everyone
thinks everyone else's party is
more awesome than their
own. Be the kickass minority
who not just believes--but truly knows--his party puts
everyone's party to shame!
(Then, go ahead and post about
it on Facebook.)
3. Develop an idiosyncratic
Facebook style* This one might take time to
develop, but it pays dividends
in the long term. If you can
find some "quirky" way to
express yourself through
Facebook, you can demonstrate a lot of
personality with limited user
features. For me, that means absolutely abusing the "Like it" button.
Unlike normal people, I
habitually and systematically
"like" everything on someone's
wall--including my own. Think about it from a girl's
perspective: how funny would
it be if you logged on Facebook
and had "Rob Judge likes 15 of
your comments." Either you'll
come across as a total freak or the most awesome guy ever.
However, if you've kept my
other tips in mind, it will be the
latter. Therefore, find some stupid
"Facebookism" that appeals to
your sense of humor, and milk
it for all it's worth. It might be
a lascivious poke, hilarious
event invites, or just a recurring comment you
always post in the
"comments."
Regardless, make it awesome
and idiosyncratic and you'll be
well on your way to better Facebook game. *Notice this is only ½ a tip
because it's important NOT to
overdo this one--even if it's
your "thing." Anything
overdone is tryhard and loses
its appeal. Do it enough to make funny, but don't get
predictable or obnoxious!

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X.A

It's probably the ultimate
fantasy
for ALL
guys...

You have an attractive
woman in
your life who
is there for only one thing...
...Casual sex
When you get bored, you can
make ONE phone call
and a willing partner will
show up
at your
doorstep. The best part is the sex
comes
with "no strings
attached."
You can get it without
being in a relationship
or showing any level of
commitment.
Sound like a dream come
true?
For some guys it's a possibility.
Whether it's called "friends
with
benefits" or
a "booty call," there will be
times in your
life when you want a
woman for
just ONE thing.
Now...there are a LOT of
positives for being in
a committed relationship.
But sometimes there will be
moments when you
want a woman who is only
there for sex.
The question is: "How can I
find a
"friend
with benefits?"
Well, today you're going to learn
five rules
for getting a relationship
like this.
.
Rule #1- Find a suitable woman
You might think that only
"promiscuous" girls
have casual sex.
The truth is MOST women
go through phases in
their lives when they're not
looking for a
boyfriend.
During this period all they
want to do is
have FUN.
Your goal is simple.
When you're out meeting
women,
look for the ones who openly talk
about
devoting time to
their careers or how
they're not
looking for boyfriends.
Obviously the girls who are
NOT
looking for
a relationship will make a
great "friend
with benefits".
.
Rule #2- Openly discuss sex
If you're looking for a
temporary thing,
focus on the girls who
show an
indication that
they don't want a
commitment. When you're talking to
them, you
want to
display an open sexuality
about
your personality.
This means engaging
women in
conversations
which concentrate on
sexual topics and
playfully bantering with
them.
Just DON'T act like the
"creepy
guy" that women hate!
So when I say sexual, I
don't mean
you make
"perverted comments
about her. Instead simply bring up the
topic
in a
non-specific manner.
. Rule #3- Build attraction
No woman will jump in the
sack
with you
unless she finds you
attractive. So when you discuss sex,
make
sure you're
talking to her in a flirtatious
manner which
she'll find attractive. Simply put, a woman will
only
want a casual
relationship if she's
attracted to
you. That's why it's important to
know
how to
create that spark of
chemistry.
Don't act like her buddy! Instead behave like a guy
who
can trigger
her emotional and sexual
desire.
. Rule #4- Set boundaries
When a woman meets a guy
for
the first
time, she'll place him in two
categories: Potential Boyfriend
or
Not a Potential Boyfriend
You probably think being
placed in
the boyfriend category is a
good
thing.
But that's NOT true!
Women typically hold off on
having sex with
guys they consider
"boyfriend
material."
Your goal is to be perceived
as a fun guy,
but NOT a guy she'd want
as a boyfriend.
This will easily increase
your chances of
having a sexual
relationship with
her.
The important thing is
always emphasize your
sexuality, but never act like
a
boyfriend.
One way to do this is
SPECIFALLY mention that
you're not looking for a
girlfriend.
Acting this way will set a
clear
boundary about the nature of your
relationship.
You're basically telling a girl
that
you
enjoy her company, but you're
BOTH free to
pursue OTHER relationships.
.
Rule #5- Keep it Casual
If everything goes right, you'll
develop a
pattern where you're
steadily
having sex with
a woman. Unfortunatley there are a
few
pitfalls you
need to avoid.
Remember you're not in a
girlfriend/boyfriend dynamic.
So it's important to do the
following to keep
things casual:
** Reinforce your
boundaries while treating
her with RESPECT
** Understand that she's
probably dating
other men
** Only "hang out" once or twice
a week
** Don't demonstrate classic
"courting"
signals
** Never hurt her feelings by
flaunting
other relationships in your
life
** Make it worth her time
by being an
exciting AND interesting
guy

Here are 3 quick sex tips Tony that you can use
right away.

- Tip #1: Simple Yet Powerful
Tips on Penetration
Strokes Hard and fast strokes aren't
always the best. Try
slowing down reeeaaaalllly
slow - Try lasting 30
seconds in one stroke. It can
really intensifies the sensations. If you want to last longer in
bed, try moving up
and down instead of just
stimulating your head. In
other words, it makes her
come faster and makes you come slower. Perfect
combo. Patterns, like 7 really short
strokes followed by
one hard "all the way in"
stroke can feel
fantastic for her. Experiment
with them and she what she responds to. - Tip #2: Being Dominant in Bed
(even if you aren't
dominant) Seeing you to be dominant in
bed can really turn
her on. Ideally, should learn to
tap into that
deep, primal sense of power
within yourself. That way you project power ALL
the time.

- Tip #3: Learn to last longer If you can only last 5, 10 or 15
minutes in bed,
it's tough to really be an
"amazing" lover. Most
women take a lot longer than
guys to come. If you can't last long enough for her
to reach her peak,
chances are, she just won't be
that impressed. Even if you learned nothing
else about sex, if you
just learned to last 3 times a
long, she'll
consider you a MUCH better
lover.

Regards
X.A

As we've learned, ATTRACTION is everything when it
comes to getting women.

Unfortunately many guys act in a way that's
REPULSIVE to your average girl.

As I've discussed, women want that feeling of
sexual tension.

This is an emotional state where they're never
quite sure what you're thinking.

OR what you'll do next.

The moment your relationship becomes predictable
is the moment she pursues OTHER guys.

The best way to KEEP a girl's attention is to mix
things up.

While you don't have to act like a raving lunatic,
it's still important to be a little unpredictable
and exciting.

...

As you know, many girls claim they want a "nice
guy."

The truth is that they want someone trustworthy,
but with a dangerous edge.

This type of guy is a bit of a jerk, and he's a
little bit cocky.

He lives his life by his own rules, and doesn't
pay much attention to what others want.

To do this, try adopting the character trait of a
guy I like to call the "Dangerous Man".

...

There's something really interesting about "The
Dangerous Man."

He's HIGHLY attractive to woman.

Primarily, this is to due to the mixed signals
he sends.

When she's around a guy like this, a woman NEVER
knows what to expect.

At any given moment, he could bring her on a
wild adventure that she didn't see coming.

...

At his core, "The Dangerous Man" is self-centered.

He lives the life that he wants.

This man doesn't allow others to dictate what he
does, and he never supplicates himself whenever a
woman makes a demand.

To be more dangerous, you have to embrace the
idea that women should pursue you, not the other
way around.


Here are a few techniques for becoming more like
"The Dangerous Man":

1) Never fall for a woman's tests or emotionally
react to any stunt she pulls.

A guy who lives his life on the edge doesn't
concern himself with these tests.

He either ignores them or "calls her out" on her
bad behavior.

The dangerous guy has a ton of confidence about
himself, so he's not afraid of losing a particular
girl.

He knows that if she moves on, then there will be
another to replace her.

...

2) Adopt the attitude of "not caring."

While you want to do the things that'll attract a
girl, you never want to get sucked into the trap
of trying too hard.

Remember, a dangerous guy focuses on himself, and
he's NOT concerned if a girl likes him.

Instead, he enjoys life and doesn't get too
wrapped up in any particular woman.

...

3) Don't always be available.

If she calls (or texts), don't always immediately
respond.

Make her wonder what you're doing or even who
you're with.

...

4) Live an exciting life.

Your life should have a few adventures that most
people only dream of.

While you don't have to lead safaris through
Africa or start BASE Jumping, you should still
try new things that'll challenge your comfort
levels.

Facing your fears is actually a good thing.

When you do something outside "the norm," you'll
be the guy who displays an interesting and
exciting lifestyle.

As you know, women like romance novels and soap
operas, because they provide a glimpse into a
drama-filled world.

By having a few interesting or even "dangerous"
hobbies, you'll display a personality that makes
women excited.

"The Dangerous Man" is alluring because he never
makes a woman feel completely comfortable.

Whenever she's around, you want to subtly
demonstrate that you live an unpredictable
lifestyle.

A girl should feel that her place is never
100% secure.

You have so much going on in your life, you could
move on at moment's notice.

...

That in essence is HOW to become The Dangerous Man.

Now I'd like to also mention this personality
trait is animportant part of sexual tension.

This is an emotional state YOU can create by
flirting and teasing a girl.

Getting dumped is one of the worst things a guy can go through.
Recently I saw a life stress ranking list, and
having an intimate relationship
end was actually listed as more stressful than
serving a jail term.So if you're ready to turn it
around no matter how bad she
dumped you, let's get going...
The first step to getting your
woman back is to re-establish your value.
This is important because by far
the most common mistake a guy makes at the
end of a relationship is to become needy. He practically gets on his
hands and knees and begs his woman to take him
back, and unfortunately this has the exact opposite
effect of pushing her away. It's simple human
psychology, understood by any competent marketer or
salesman: if something is in-demand and you have to
work for it, you end up valuing it more.
And unfortunately, when you
become the crying man, pleading for your woman to take
you back, she doesn't exactly have to work for
you. You'll have the best success,
then, by re-establishing your value right
away by sending your ex-girlfriend a
handwritten cut-off note. ...

Simply put, you tell her that you're going to give her time and space
apart from you, you agree with the break up, and you're going to cut
off communication with her for awhile so that both of you can have
that healthy distance. You end the note by saying that something
exciting has happened in your life and you need to tell her about it
sometime. This is extremely effective because it appeals to your ex's
sense of curiosity, which is the strongest human emotion there is.
Later when it comes time to re-initiate communication with your ex,
she will be unable to resist speaking with you again. The second step
is to build your attractiveness. There are 11 traits that women are
attracted to, which I call the "Attraction Dials." Your turn the
dials, and you turn up the desire a woman has for you. These
Attraction Dials are as follows:

1. Being a Leader -- You talk and others (especially other men) listen.

2. Masculine Good Looks -- Women use the word "cute," "handsome," or
even "hot" to describe you. They compliment you on various aspects of
how you're put together such as "nice shirt!".

3. Physical Health and Strength -- You're in shape.

4. Confidence -- You move through life with self-assurance, without
fear of others judging you.

5. Being Happy and Non-Needy You have no need to pressure the woman or
to try to control her behavior.

6. Having Other Women Interested in You -- If a woman knows she's got
competition to win you, then you look that much more appealing in her eyes.

7. Being Popular -- You have a large network of people you know.

8. Being Interesting, Intriguing, Fun and a Captivating -- You bring a huge
relief to a woman's boring life.

9. Being Assertive -- You can protect those around you.

10. Making Her Laugh -- If a woman is laughing at what you say, it is
psychologically impossible for her to dislike you.

11. Having Drive -- You're ambitious and have passions you're pursuing ...


Step three is to identify the mistakes you made previously in the
relationship and learn from them so that when you have the
relationship re-run, you and your woman will stay together.
After all, it isn't any more fun being dumped a second time! I'm
drastically over-simplifying here, but the elements of a successful
relationship are:

1. You're a man who is generally dominant rather than wish-washy,
confident in himself, and an alpha male.

2. You give your woman positive emotions.

3. Emotionally, she needs you more than you need her.
(You can stand on your own two feet and don't need her to be your
psychologist or mother-figure.)

4. You have frequent and pleasurable physical relations with her.


Step four is to re-initiate communication with your woman after a full
21 days of keeping her 100% cut off from you. Then you get her to hang
out with you so you can re-attract her. In order to be able to meet
with her, make sure to let her know that you're totally fine with the
break up and just want to be friends at this point. Be totally
nonchalant and cool. You want her to wonder what's changed and what's
going on with you. Then when the two of you hang out, you turn her
Attraction Dials and completely astound her and sweep her off her
feet.

Does he REALLY like me... or is he just playing games, like he does
with ALL his girls? This is what should be running through her head
while you tease and flirt with her. It makes her want to keep playing
the game. Whenever she's with a guy like this, she'll want to look her
best, and act her sexiest, in order to get the confirmation she
craves. The key is to NEVER give her total confirmation. When a woman
is attracted to you, she desperately wants to know if the feeling is
mutual! You can work women into a frenzy this way...by NEVER letting
the girl know that she's "won." For this reason, you must never tell
her how long you've wanted to ask her out, admit how attracted you are
to her, or tell her how you think the two of you would be "great
together." If these sound like winning romantic gestures, turn off
your television, because you've been watching too many Hollywood
movies. Only in the movies can the dork or the shy guy win over the
hottest girl in school in the end because he makes some grand,
romantic declaration.

In reality, it's more likely that she'll regard this as weakness on
your part. (Remember, emotional STRENGTH is one of the big keys to
attraction.) Nine times out of ten, your "confession" isn't going to
prompt her to confess her own attraction to you. It will only take you
down a notch in her eyes. You are no longer an original; you are just
another guy who can't control his emotions or his libido. Play it cool
and act like nothing fazes you. You're a train moving full-steam
ahead. The choice is hers: She can climb onboard and take an exciting
ride, or you can roll without her to the next stop. Either way, you're
an independent guy, doing your own thing. It will become clear whether
she is interested in you on a sexual level.

You won't be shooting in the dark, worrying that she'll freak out if
you try to touch her. When you follow the correct progression of
steps, escalating from conversation to physical touching, you'll never
have to wonder whether she "likes you as a friend" or whether she's
interested in more. You'll know how to read her signals, and your
tactics will be gently leading her down the path to "yes"...instead of
giving her reasons to say "oh, look at the time...I should be getting
home soon."

Evaporate the physical boundaries between you by making body contact
with her. The best times to do so are when you're both laughing. Reach
over and give her a knee a light touch. High-five her and interlace
your fingers with her, then disengage. What you're doing is
acclimating her to your touch, so that it becomes something she is
comfortable with. This way, later in the night when you hold her hand,
kiss her for the first time, or initiate the foreplay that leads to
sex, she's already "warmed up" to your touch. Guys will often fail to
escalate because they don't want to be seen as too aggressive. (It's
just an excuse, really, for not wanting to risk rejection--and they're
not confident that she will agree to the escalation, because they
haven't laid the right groundwork.) If you've laid the groundwork,
made her physically comfortable with you, and built up her attraction
by framing yourself as a hard-to-get "prize," she'll be receptive when
you take things to the next level. But it's on you to lead her there.

Regards,
X.A

Hi readers, in this post I am going to go over the top ten most
dangerous mistakes men make and how to avoid them.

1. Being too nice and showing too much interest.

When a man meets a woman he is very interested in, he tends to become
over accommodating and starts acting extra nice. He will do things
like laugh at things that aren't too funny. He will agree with
everything she says. He will offer to help her in any way that he can.
And he will generally display to her that he is willing to do whatever
she asks of him in exchange for her to like him. This is a recipe for
failure.

A woman doesn't feel attraction to a man who presents himself to her
as a subservient servant. Once a woman knows that you are willing to
do anything to be with her, all the challenge is gone and she
immediately loses all interest and attraction for that man. Instead
you want to show women that you are a challenge. You want to show her
that you have personal power and don't need to suck up to her in order
to get her love and approval. Keep your power for you because a woman
wants to date a powerful man, not a subservient wimp.

2. Leaning In

Another mistake men make is leaning into the woman too much. Leaning
in means that you physically lean your body towards her when you are
talking to her; this is not attractive and sub communicates that you
are bowing to her and that you believe that she is more valuable and
powerful that you are. In short, leaning in is a sign of submission.

A woman wants a man who is more powerful than her, not less powerful.
So in order to sub-communicate to a woman that you are more powerful
and dominant than her make sure you always stand in an erect fashion
and even lean back a bit; this sub communicates that you are
confident, powerful and have high self esteem. All those qualities
are attractive to women. Never lean in; always lean back

3: Not Taking The Lead In An Interaction

Most men try to get the woman to lead the interaction and
conversation; this is a huge mistake and makes women lose attraction
immediately. Asking a woman a string of questions just to get her
talking is not the way to gain rapport with her and make her like you.

When you put all the pressure on a woman to lead the interaction and
do all the talking she will get annoyed and leave. Also, asking a
woman what she wants to do instead of planning everything and just
inviting her along is also a huge mistake; women hate having to lead
and make decisions. From now on always take the lead in all your
conversations with women. Lead the conversation where you want it to
go.

Also be assertive and be the one who decides where you guys are going
to go out and what you are going to do. Always always lead.

4. Thinking Of What To Say Next

When talking to an attractive woman, men are usually up in their heads
thinking about what they're going to say next.

When you are up in your head instead of in the present moment really
listening to her then she is not going to feel much connection with
you. She is going to see that you look distracted; she will think you
aren't really listening to her and don't care about what she has to
say. When you are thinking about what you are going to say next you
lose the intimate connection that is necessary to develop with a woman
in order for her to feel attracted to you.

Instead of thinking about what to say next, be in the moment, get
present in your body and really listen to her. Once you start truly
listening to her, you will connect with her because you are being in
the moment; and when you are in the moment the woman can feel a true
connection with you.

5. Trying To Impress Women

A lot of men think they have to impress a woman into liking them; this
is wrong. Sitting there talking about yourself and how great you are
does very little to stimulate interest or attraction in a woman. When
a woman sees that you are obsessed with yourself and always talking
about your possessions and accomplishments, she's going to think you
are a selfish self centered loser.

What a woman wants is a man who cares about her and wants to connect
with her and learn about her hopes and dreams. So from now on forget
about impressing a woman and instead focus on connecting with her. Get
curious about her, her life, her dreams, passions, struggles;once you
do this the woman will feel very connected and safe with you. Once she
feels connected and safe then her next emotion is usually attraction.

6. Telling Her You Like Her Too Soon

A lot of times you will meet a woman that you really like and you will
have this powerful urge to express to her how crazy you are about her;
don't do this! Many men make the mistake of expressing their interest
to a woman too soon and then the woman is turned off and runs away.
You need to always keep a woman suspended between hope and doubt; a
woman wants a challenge.

The second a woman knows that she can have you, she loses interest in
you. You need to show her a little interest and then balance that
interest with displays of disinterest; this will always keep her
guessing about you and keep you a challenge in her eyes

7. Talking About Negative Things

When you meet a woman never talk about anything negative. Most men
tend to talk about a lot of negative things when they first meet a
woman; he talks about his ex girlfriend, his break up, how he is
struggling at work, how crappy the weather is etc.

Women hate this; they just want someone who will make them feel happy.
So always make sure you only talk about positive fun things when you
are with a woman. Take her on an adventure and allow her to forget
about her mundane troublesome life. She wants a man who will add
excitement and joy to her life, not bring her down into the dumps.

8. Having Weak Body Language

When you are talking to a beautiful woman don't fidget or move around
too much. A woman is attracted to a man who is confident and
comfortable in his own skin. If you are nervous, fidgeting,looking
around a lot, speaking too quickly and not keeping strong eye contact
then the woman is going to sense that you are weak and her attraction
will die. Be calm and strong in the presence of a woman.

Make your movements slow and relaxed, keep strong eye contact, speak
slowly, breath slowly, be as relaxed as possible. An alpha male is
always relaxed and in control of himself and the situation; that's
what women are attracted to.

9. Not Dressing Properly Or Being Well Groomed

If you want a beautiful woman in your life you have to present
yourself in an attractive fashion. A lot of men have a very
unattractive style. Make sure you don't wear runners with jeans. Wear
black socks with pants and white socks with shorts. Make sure your
clothes fit your body and look good on you. Always shower and smell
good. Make sure all your body hairs are trimmed including nose and ear
hair if you have them. A woman judges you by your style, how you are
groomed and how well you take care of your body. A woman wants a
healthy, clean, stylish man; not a slob. The way you take care of
yourself tells her a lot about how well you will take care of her.

10. Calling Her Too Much

When you get a woman's phone number, email address or facebook, this
does not give you permission to call her and talk to her all the time.
A lot of men get too excited when they get a woman's contact info and
start calling too much, texting too much or writing very long facebook
messages to her; all these behaviors creep women out so don't do them.

If she sees that you are too available and contacting her all the time
she will think you are desperate and weird; she will stop feeling
attraction for you and start avoiding you. Always keep your contact
with her brief and casual. Maintain this until after you have had sex
with her. This way you are sure not to scare her off before the
relationship has time to develop and mature.
Warmest Regards,

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There are endless resources out there to help a woman with her
flirting skills. She's fully equipped with information about how to
make you notice her. She's been properly schooled about how she should
lean into the conversation body language, you know. She knows to cross
her legs toward you and absently tug her hair while intently listening
to you talk, all while managing to rest her elbow nearly against yours
the whole time. It's like a game of Twister that she's actually
mastered. But you, you haven't got the first clue where to start.
You're not a game-playing kind of guy. You prefer to just tell a lady
you like her and see where it goes from there. But, if you find
yourself reading this article, it probably hasn't really gone
anywhere, so it's time to brush up on your flirting skills. Here are
five tips to coax out your inner flirt.

5: Act Interested
Depending on the kind of advice you've received in the past, this may
either seem too on the nose or completely counter intuitive. Of course
you need to act interested, you think. How else will she know I like
her? Or, you may have the opinion that girls seem more interested in
guys who ignore them, so will you look like you have no game if you
actually let on that you're interested? Playing coy may work for women
flirting with men, but when the shoe is on the other foot, women need
to know you're interested. Just not too interested. Confused yet?
Let's break it down. If you're attracted to someone, you need to give
her some sort of idea that this is the case. But at the flirting stage
of any relationship, things need to be light and fun. So managing the
intensity of your interest is important. Pay enough attention that she
gets the hint, but don't come on so strong that she gets creeped out.

4: Play Hard to Get
Yes, we realize this seems like a complete contradiction of the advice
we gave you in No. 5, but it's not exactly. It's human nature to
desire what may not be yours, so it's good to pay attention to the
woman of your pursuits, but maybe not too much attention at first.
This means don't fawn all over her, complimenting her every feature
and acting like you can't live without her. This could quickly fall
into stalker territory. If you're in a group, be sure to talk to other
people, especially other women. Just don't flirt with the other women
because this will send mixed signals to the one you like. You don't
want the apple of your eye to give up on you entirely. When you're
talking to her, don't overly approve of
everything she says. You don't want to go overboard and reject her
comments, but it's OK to let her wonder what you're thinking about.
Yes, this all falls under the category of games, which generally isn't
a good idea in relationships. But all is fair in the flirting arena.

3: Get Physical
Remember in elementary school when you chased the pretty girl around
the playground and grabbed her ponytail? She probably wondered why you
were bullying her, having no idea that you were trying to let
her know that you secretly liked her. Fortunately, you've both gotten
a little better at giving and receiving body language cues, so pain is
no longer required to get her attention. But a little touch is still a
great way to let a lady know that you're into her. The big rule in
this is to make sure the touch is appropriate. Anything perceived as
groping will likely land you a slap on the face and an escort out the
door. But finding an excuse to grab her hand is a great way to test
the waters and see if the feelings are reciprocal. Maybe it's
legitimate, like trying to stay with her in a crowd, or maybe you have
to make up a reason, like pretending to read her palm. The good news
is, if she keeps her hand in yours, she probably likes you. But if she
quickly pulls away, you may need to put on the brakes.

2: Make Her Laugh
It's no secret that making a woman laugh is one of the quickest ways
to get her attention. Believe it or not, for many ladies, funny and
charming rank right up there with handsome and athletic. Why do you
think Jack Black or Ramsy Noah gets romantic leads in movies? In
regard to being a funny guy, obviously, we're not talking about
pulling out your full bag of funny jokes. And you may want to avoid
making light of politics or religion until you know where she stands
on those issues. You can always start by lightly make fun of yourself.
Self-deprecation, if done right, lets her know you're confident enough
to laugh at yourself, and that is a turn-on. Lightly making fun of her
in an appreciative way is another flirting technique that will clue
her in that you like her, as long as you keep it on the level. You
don't want to turn it into a roast. You'll definitely want to skip the
butt jokes unless she makes one first. And even then, you're probably
best avoiding any jokes about her body unless she's a swimsuit model.
Remember, light and fun is the name of the game.

1: Be Curious
By nature, communication is important to most women. Why else do you
think they would spend hours on the phone with their girlfriends and
mothers? And in general, women are used to men being less interested
in their ramblings. So, you want to know one of the best flirting
techniques? Ask questions, and then actually listen to the answers.
Demonstrating an ability to listen in a genuinely interested way will
drive you up the ranks and fast. You must try to avoid lending an ear
about anything related to current or past relationship troubles.So
keep those questions away!

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